The Word, 2015

Whenever I think of my “word for the year”, I’m reminded of PeeWee’s Playhouse and their word of the day. You know what to do whenever anyone says the secret word, don’t you? Scream real loud!!!

For those of you too young to remember this show, eff you and your lack of crow’s feet! Watch it and love this creepy, overgrown man-child because it will prepare you for marriage. They’re all giant babies, just as willing to whip it out at inappropriate times (you may have to look that reference up) and about as likely to laugh or scream without justified reasoning.

Anyway! I decided that, like many others out there, I wasn’t going to make a resolution this New Year and, instead, I was going to focus on a single word as my mantra, my inspiration or my modus operandi for the next twelve months.

So, how to settle upon just one word?

It’s not easy, I can tell you that much. For me personally, a New Year resolution can set you up for failure. It’s what I think of as an ongoing solution to a temporary problem in my life and it’s cause for only momentary reflection, a selfish (somewhat) wish for an area in which I lack during a singular point in time. Often, I forget about it or I just didn’t really need it to begin with. Either that or, admittedly, I’m a lazy dbag and can’t be bothered to fulfill my “I’m going to head to the gym three times a week!” resolution as a result of either scheduling, funding, priorities or the aforementioned laziness. Sadly, it’s true.

The word…well, that’s a different story. It’s a challenge and reminder that is difficult to escape. It’s a daily change and a constant reasoning to pause for reflection. It is something that I can consider in every day decisions, all of them, and insert into life as a whole. I have found it, thus far, quite effective so I am sharing it with you now.

Here was my process….

What am I lacking now? What am I looking for? What is my ideal self? What are my goals? What do I want out of 2015? What’s my mission statement, in a sense?

I put on my thinking cap…

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…and this is what I came up with;

I want to wake up at a set time every morning, even if it’s not a result of having to get the kids to school. I want to set time aside for myself, every day, to have a coffee that’s hot and enjoy my own company before the girls wake up. I want to get the girls into a rigid routine, more than what has already been set, and I want to make sure we fill each day with a specific amount of time for learning their numbers, letters, colours and manners. They do that now but I would like to become more strict with it, testing the waters and figuring out whether or not we want to go the homeschool route. I want to start nourishing my body, physically and internally, taking better care of myself than I do now. I’m very definitely a woman and ought to, like Marilyn, enjoy it. Make up is not my enemy and has become my long-lost friend. I want to invest some time in myself again, setting aside a few moments where I can do simple things like shave, meditate, reflect, relax and read every day in order to recharge and be less stressed. I miss all of those small pleasures, greatly. I also miss being fit, with no weight loss goals in mind but a need to become healthier, leaner and stronger. My husband and I need to reconnect, having lost so much time together these past couple of years as a result of expanding the family and lengthening the work hours. Even if it’s just half an hour at the end of the night, we should be intimate- physically or otherwise (and I don’t just mean sexually, jeez!) and this must become one of my highest priorities in order to spread happiness to every corner of the day. The blog is vital and I need to devote at least two hours, every couple of days, into my page. I must learn to express my need for support regarding this to family and to my husband. I can not be everywhere at once, although I can be one place with every part of myself- I need to learn this, accept it and embrace it. Prioritize and maximize, in every instance.

That was my little bit of reflection. It was my pep talk for 2015, my rev up for the New Year and me setting some goals.  Now, that’s a bit more than the standard resolution. How do I boil that down? How can that massive blah blah blah turn into singular reminder?

I broke it down into a few basic, key points;

Scheduling, family, devotion, nurturing, relationships, health, love, some more scheduling, routine, power, self awareness… and so on.

I think a lot of my issues stem from not having enough hours in the day (go figure, eh Mamas?) or not enough hours to myself (again, I know there are many who can relate on that one). There is not much I can do about that. I can try to become more focused, less distracted and a little more strict. What about the times where I can’t though, or how can I stay focused?

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I needed to boil it down further, into a single thing.

One word to rule and them all. One word to remind them. One word to summarize my goals and one word to bind them…

(Yeah, yeah, I’m a nerd)

This is what I came up with;

Productive

In every single aspect of my life, each and every day, I can reflect upon whether or not I am being productive.

When I want to snuggle in bed with my littlest girl and bask in the baby scent; I can weigh the glory that is toddler snuzzling against “Is this being productive? Really though??” and I’ll roll myself away from the loveliness that is my Chicky while she’s snoozing. While distracted by our game of “fridge-fridge” (a new thing where Peanut wants to lay on the floor, have us both stick our feet in the air, then get up, run around the room and race back to the fridge just to do that all over again), I can consider whether or not our time spent is also productive and maybe request that we practice counting to ten while we’re staring at our toes in the air, or paint them all a different colour and check those out before we run around and repeat. When I collapse on the couch and want to veg for a while, I can consider whether or not that me-time is productive and what I could do to better invest in myself, in order to feel more fulfilled afterwards; A nice shower, perhaps? Maybe I can curl my hair, or even stretch while I relax! Starting to use those muscles has made me remember, “Hey! It feels good to do that, to be toned…” and it has already helped me feel more energized. I worked out today because I felt like it, not because I forced myself to do so, and I can’t even remember the last time that happened. With my husband, I’ve also started thinking, “Is this productive or destructive?” where our interactions are concerned. Sometimes, admittedly, I get nitpicky when sulky about a lack of attentiveness on his part, or mine, and when I am feeling disconnected. There’s no need for it. Remembering to be productive in my relationships has prevented needless negativity, which will help with all of the rest of it.

Just a short while into 2015, I’ve been able to keep on with this and make some positive changes. It won’t be as difficult to adhere to them, as my one word is easy to remember, repeat and stick to. With a single mantra, I can frequently check myself, ensure I am in line with where I would like to be for this coming year and keep on a positive track.

Here’s hoping for a bright, prosperous 2015- in this house and for all of my readers as well.

What’s YOUR word for the New Year? And, don’t worry, I wouldn’t hold it against you if you wanted to scream real loud whenever you hear it 😉

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41 comments

  1. Samantha Angell says:

    First you definitely made me laugh out loud with your ‘screw you and lack of crows feet’ comment. Tried to explain why I was laughing to my husband and he didn’t get it. Oooh, I love your word and how you arrived at it! I am still trying to decide what my word for the year could be, and I may just end up stealing yours!

    • Alysia from My Domestic Dish says:

      Hahaha! I’ve been in the exact same position. I’m used to my hubbs looking at me like I’ve got something in my teeth, all because I’m giggling like an idiot over hearing someone else’s voice in my head via their writing 😛
      I love comments like this! You’re more than welcome to steal my word- I thought it was a bit different than a lot of the ones I’ve seen up. The “Is this productive or destructive?” has become a standard saying in my dealings with the manchild I’ve married. It helps me pick my battles, for sure lol

  2. Robin Rue (@massholemommy) says:

    Productive is a good choice. I never pick works because I know I won’t stick to it for more than a few weeks. Same reason I don’t bother making resolutions.

  3. Angelic Sinova says:

    Productive is a GREAT word and it something I aim to be more of everyday! My word this year was happiness because in 2014 I learned that happiness is a choice so this year I’m making it my goal to always be happy <3

  4. Fi Ní Neachtáin says:

    Productive is a great word to have for 2015. Mine is another ‘P’ – positivity. 2015 is my year for being positive and living life to the full.

    • Alysia from My Domestic Dish says:

      That’s a stretch goal for me, one that I don’t think I could accomplish- so kudos to you, for setting the bar high and aiming to hold your head up, no matter what! I’m not necessarily a “negative” person but I wouldn’t say that I’m exactly “positive” either 😛

  5. Kristi says:

    I’m still thinking about what my word is and if I even have one. I’m not good with resolutions. Maybe “house” because I’m determined to buy my almost dream home this year.

  6. Echo says:

    First off, I adore you for the use of the PeeWee clip! I love PeeWee! Secondly, I have never been able to pick one word because I don’t feel like one word is ever enough, lol!

    • Alysia from My Domestic Dish says:

      Saaaame! haha I’m known for being long-winded 😛
      However, I think I’ve summarized a plethora of words rather nicely with just this one….plus, whenever asked about it, I can give a giant explanation so I think it’ll suffice 😛

      So glad the Pee Wee reference wasn’t lost!

  7. courtney says:

    What a great word Productive will be!!! I’ve always thought it would be fun to have a word of the year, but I would probably forget about it a day after picking one 😉

  8. Michelle Hwee says:

    What an important word! i feel that it means to be the best that you can and to be proud of yourself. Pee Wee!! Haha 🙂

  9. Myrabev says:

    I gave up setting resolutions when i failed again to complete the 2012 one so started 2013 with none and been very happy ever since, now i have monthly goals which have served me well. I have a word for the year which is Joy.

  10. Rebecca Swenor says:

    Great post indeed and great way to find your word which is a complete process I believe. I love the question you ask yourself when trying to figure the word out. I have made my word commitment. Thanks for sharing,

  11. Rachel G says:

    I think that’s an excellent word for the year–looking back on 2015 as a productive year will certainly help you to feel that you used that time in the best way it could be used!

  12. Debbie Champagne says:

    I loved reading your story. I think Pee Herman is awesome and how you related to him. Yes that turned out to be one great word…PRODUCTIVE! I think we all could use that, because I am with you not enough hours in the day.
    Will keep up the great work!

  13. trininista says:

    I think my word for 2015 will have to be OPTIMISM. I get easily derailed by doubt and I cannot let it take over. I preach optimism and often get mired in fear myself so my “hope” – pun intended – is that I can be optimistic this year as I face the challenges which may come way. Thanks for stopping by today! 🙂

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