Whenever I think of my “word for the year”, I’m reminded of PeeWee’s Playhouse and their word of the day. You know what to do whenever anyone says the secret word, don’t you? Scream real loud!!!
For those of you too young to remember this show, eff you and your lack of crow’s feet! Watch it and love this creepy, overgrown man-child because it will prepare you for marriage. They’re all giant babies, just as willing to whip it out at inappropriate times (you may have to look that reference up) and about as likely to laugh or scream without justified reasoning.
Anyway! I decided that, like many others out there, I wasn’t going to make a resolution this New Year and, instead, I was going to focus on a single word as my mantra, my inspiration or my modus operandi for the next twelve months.
So, how to settle upon just one word?
It’s not easy, I can tell you that much. For me personally, a New Year resolution can set you up for failure. It’s what I think of as an ongoing solution to a temporary problem in my life and it’s cause for only momentary reflection, a selfish (somewhat) wish for an area in which I lack during a singular point in time. Often, I forget about it or I just didn’t really need it to begin with. Either that or, admittedly, I’m a lazy dbag and can’t be bothered to fulfill my “I’m going to head to the gym three times a week!” resolution as a result of either scheduling, funding, priorities or the aforementioned laziness. Sadly, it’s true.
The word…well, that’s a different story. It’s a challenge and reminder that is difficult to escape. It’s a daily change and a constant reasoning to pause for reflection. It is something that I can consider in every day decisions, all of them, and insert into life as a whole. I have found it, thus far, quite effective so I am sharing it with you now.
Here was my process….
What am I lacking now? What am I looking for? What is my ideal self? What are my goals? What do I want out of 2015? What’s my mission statement, in a sense?
I put on my thinking cap…
…and this is what I came up with;
I want to wake up at a set time every morning, even if it’s not a result of having to get the kids to school. I want to set time aside for myself, every day, to have a coffee that’s hot and enjoy my own company before the girls wake up. I want to get the girls into a rigid routine, more than what has already been set, and I want to make sure we fill each day with a specific amount of time for learning their numbers, letters, colours and manners. They do that now but I would like to become more strict with it, testing the waters and figuring out whether or not we want to go the homeschool route. I want to start nourishing my body, physically and internally, taking better care of myself than I do now. I’m very definitely a woman and ought to, like Marilyn, enjoy it. Make up is not my enemy and has become my long-lost friend. I want to invest some time in myself again, setting aside a few moments where I can do simple things like shave, meditate, reflect, relax and read every day in order to recharge and be less stressed. I miss all of those small pleasures, greatly. I also miss being fit, with no weight loss goals in mind but a need to become healthier, leaner and stronger. My husband and I need to reconnect, having lost so much time together these past couple of years as a result of expanding the family and lengthening the work hours. Even if it’s just half an hour at the end of the night, we should be intimate- physically or otherwise (and I don’t just mean sexually, jeez!) and this must become one of my highest priorities in order to spread happiness to every corner of the day. The blog is vital and I need to devote at least two hours, every couple of days, into my page. I must learn to express my need for support regarding this to family and to my husband. I can not be everywhere at once, although I can be one place with every part of myself- I need to learn this, accept it and embrace it. Prioritize and maximize, in every instance.
That was my little bit of reflection. It was my pep talk for 2015, my rev up for the New Year and me setting some goals. Now, that’s a bit more than the standard resolution. How do I boil that down? How can that massive blah blah blah turn into singular reminder?
I broke it down into a few basic, key points;
Scheduling, family, devotion, nurturing, relationships, health, love, some more scheduling, routine, power, self awareness… and so on.
I think a lot of my issues stem from not having enough hours in the day (go figure, eh Mamas?) or not enough hours to myself (again, I know there are many who can relate on that one). There is not much I can do about that. I can try to become more focused, less distracted and a little more strict. What about the times where I can’t though, or how can I stay focused?
I needed to boil it down further, into a single thing.
One word to rule and them all. One word to remind them. One word to summarize my goals and one word to bind them…
(Yeah, yeah, I’m a nerd)
This is what I came up with;
In every single aspect of my life, each and every day, I can reflect upon whether or not I am being productive.
When I want to snuggle in bed with my littlest girl and bask in the baby scent; I can weigh the glory that is toddler snuzzling against “Is this being productive? Really though??” and I’ll roll myself away from the loveliness that is my Chicky while she’s snoozing. While distracted by our game of “fridge-fridge” (a new thing where Peanut wants to lay on the floor, have us both stick our feet in the air, then get up, run around the room and race back to the fridge just to do that all over again), I can consider whether or not our time spent is also productive and maybe request that we practice counting to ten while we’re staring at our toes in the air, or paint them all a different colour and check those out before we run around and repeat. When I collapse on the couch and want to veg for a while, I can consider whether or not that me-time is productive and what I could do to better invest in myself, in order to feel more fulfilled afterwards; A nice shower, perhaps? Maybe I can curl my hair, or even stretch while I relax! Starting to use those muscles has made me remember, “Hey! It feels good to do that, to be toned…” and it has already helped me feel more energized. I worked out today because I felt like it, not because I forced myself to do so, and I can’t even remember the last time that happened. With my husband, I’ve also started thinking, “Is this productive or destructive?” where our interactions are concerned. Sometimes, admittedly, I get nitpicky when sulky about a lack of attentiveness on his part, or mine, and when I am feeling disconnected. There’s no need for it. Remembering to be productive in my relationships has prevented needless negativity, which will help with all of the rest of it.
Just a short while into 2015, I’ve been able to keep on with this and make some positive changes. It won’t be as difficult to adhere to them, as my one word is easy to remember, repeat and stick to. With a single mantra, I can frequently check myself, ensure I am in line with where I would like to be for this coming year and keep on a positive track.
Here’s hoping for a bright, prosperous 2015- in this house and for all of my readers as well.
What’s YOUR word for the New Year? And, don’t worry, I wouldn’t hold it against you if you wanted to scream real loud whenever you hear it 😉